The subject tell it all .... For some reasons, I hate and dislike JULY 2010.
It's ending soon. I wish the coming season, Season Seven in the month of August will be a great month! I'm seeing good stuffs are coming in next season ....... =)
-teresa-
I encountered with an accident the other day.I was halfway changing to another lane, and a motorbike was so fast coming from behind, and unbreakable, "BOM"! ... Once I stepped out from the car, I saw an old man lying on the road with his broken motorbike. On that moment on, I was telling myself to stop figuring whose fault in that accident but trying my best to help as much, as I was not hurt at all in the whole accident.. I was keeping the 90-10 principles by stephen covey in my mind. (10% of life is made up of what happens to you, 90% of life is decided by how you react.) I did not call for any helps as I do not want to complicate the whole situation, and I decided to take a day off to bring this old man for a full body check up, however, he rejected my offer...I understand if I were to bring this case to police, the old man will get the summon as he was banging my car from behind. And most of the people suggested me to do a police report. I did not, because he is an old man, ..... an old man driving a Motorbike.... an old man driving a Motorbike to Work, to earn for a living ... No matter how he throw his frustration and anger to me, during the accident, I keep myself soft and calm... And I promised him to pay back the damage. The next day, I supposed to pay him back RM200. We met at my office. He put a smile on his face when he saw me. Not because of the money, i believe. The first word from his mouth is "Sorry for throwing his anger to me". I was glad, not because of his "Sorry", but because he looks good and fine. =). He returned RM50 to me, as the repaired for the motorbike is RM150. I said, keep the money and go for body checkup, to ensure he is OK. But, the old man said, he did the check up at govt hosp and that doesn't cost him much. =) ... At the end of the story is, the old man and I is happy. We put a smile on our face. And I got a new friend now. Will be dating him for lunch next week!. That is how, the 90% of life is made of. We can't control the 10% of life where accident happened. Let's imagine another way round, where I'm being harsh to him as well. Things gonna turn out to be different as well especially when both party is in different races. We blame each other for the races to build such a person and cursing over each other. That's gonna turn out to be very sad! ...
Oh ok, some would probably say the whole story is to praise myself for being a good person. No no no no .... I do admit,I'm a pretty harsh lady. I could be very mean in a way when someone is acting over my limit. In chinese, we call it "Stepped on my pony tail". =P ...I'm sorry, I could not forget all the bad vibes doings in my life, to destroy and to hurt my family. I'm not a forgiveful person at all in this situation, because I will not give another chance. I'm really glad for all the bad things happened, as I am now have a little peace in mind. =)
Afterall, whatever you do, or you decided to do, just remember to create peace in your own life. . -teresachin-
I guess, I had gone through a pretty good and interesting life during my childhood and teenager life. I was lucky enough to enjoy my childhood as much as others, as I was not stress with study. I was allowed to play all the games and watch all the program that I like. I remembered my first roller plate, my eldest sis bought it for me. Computer games like aladin, prince of persia, mario, tetris, and etc. I was quite well equipt with almost everything.
Teenage life was fantastic! My first handphone was Nokia 8850 and I was 16 years old and my very first puppy love was fall on the valentines day. I was not sure what is love is all about. Probably, it was the special chemistry that bond 2 persons together, and whenever you see each other, the heart beat increase... That might explain. 16 years old was my most memorable year, because i've enjoy my life to the max. My first try to night life. My first make up! Sms and phone chatting whole night long. spending some money for grooming - hairdos, facial and etc. A year that I will never forget, 2001...No commitment, no worries, no burden, and all I have to do was to enjoy life.
Coming along to the 2nd stage of teenage life was during my uni life. Stress with studies, family problems arise, had pretty bad experience in love life. But, at times, I do enjoy the whole process of it. Tackling one subject to another, one semester to another semester, changing from one person to another person, I've learnt so much. That's the true learning path I've been to. Building me to be a better person, learning from mistake, and life still goes on pretty goood. From a dependent young naive little girl to an independent smart little lady.
Life changes the most when I entered adulthood. Commitment, burden and worries, all comes together. Obstacle after obstacle for me to tackle and to solve. I was not ready to enter this stage of life. I was unprepare at all, therefore, the feeling of uncertainties, unsecure, had made me emotionally and physically weak. I was just so weak, and yet the bad vibes was trying to destroy my life even harder. Lucky enough and thanks god, I went through that moment with courage. Thanks to the persons who were by my side. With your encouragement, I'm able to be the person I am today. =) ... Living the life of an adulthood and in the stage of parenthood, is never ever easy. I would probably say, this is the hardest path to me so far. From a always happy-go-lucky gal, follow the flow and never have the plan in life, I've change to a person with rules and regulations, a person with plan for the future in life, a person who care about lifestyle...
I ain't sure, what will be the next stage. However, I wish my beloved family and friends will always be happy and healthy.
A little thought on 8th July, 1130pm. By Teresa Chin.
It's been really a while since patresa's last entry. How's life everyone?!... Patresa is still very busy with life. As time goes by, we have very limited time to update this space. What's up with us on this Season Five?
- Teresa turn to 25 years old on 7th June !
- Little Lucas turn to 7 months old on 10th June ... !
- Patresa 13th month anniversary on 10th June !
- World Cup Fever gathering + Housewarming with friends on 18th June !
- Little Lucas fall sick to fever for the very first time on 26th June !
- oh! .... We watched Karate Kids on this season .... Very nice movie... "Everything you do is Kung Fu" ! =)
- Had Italiannies !!! .... YummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmY.... 
Figure 1: Patresa @ home Sweet Home HouseWarming 
Figure 2: Patresa @ Itallianies ....Yummmmmmmmmmmy.... 
Figure 4 & 5: Patresa with the sweet heart son ! =)
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I came across another article again, on the subject - forgive and forget. And I thought, I would very much agree to the writer. The source is from psychology today...
The Content of the first paragraph as per below :-
Many people believe that forgiveness is necessary if we are to put the past behind us and move on. Twelve-step programs teach the philosophy that we should forgive others because they, like us, were doing the best they could at the time. Many religions teach that forgiveness is the only fair and compassionate thing to do, since we have all sinned and we have all hurt others. Many psychotherapists also believe that forgiveness is necessary in order to heal. But as wise as spiritual leaders and therapists are concerning the importance of forgiveness, sometimes forgiveness is not possible. Unfortunately, we have not been given permission to choose not to forgive. It is my belief that forgiveness is not necessary for healing, and in some cases may not be the healthiest thing to do. This is especially true when forgiving is tantamount to giving permission to hurt you again.
I'd like to hear your thoughts and feelings on this sometimes touchy subject. Do you think it is always possible to forgive? ........ and giving another permission to hurt you once again....
Stay tune with my little thought ... TeresaChin ...
I have came across this article and found it really good to share with patresa's reader. We personally did not practise this - The 5 Things You Should Never Say to Your Spouse ... I thought I should have agree with this article and start to change on what not to say to my husband ... =), Sorry husband, I should have not say this 5 things.... And I promise will not say it ever again .... ;)
The 5 Things You Should Never Say to Your Spouse
1. It's your fault!
2. I told you so!
3. Saying "I am upset with you about this or that . . . ." in a public setting
4. Why do you always . . .
5. Ask for your spouse's opinion and then do the opposite.
I supposed I do need a change after I did a checklist. =)
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Dear husband,
Fast forward, it's more than a year we have been living together as a married couple.
As I look back on all that's happened..growing up, growing together, changing you, changing me, there were times when we dreamed together, when we laughed and cried together. As I look back on those days, I realize how much I truly miss you and how much I truly love you. The past may be gone forever..and whatever the future holds, our todays make the memories of tomorrow. So, my lifetime husband, it is with all my heart that I send you my love, hoping that you'll always carry my smile with you, for all we have meant to each other and for whatever the future may hold. =)
I love you in every coming seasons. Patresa route will be getting more interesting and happier in each passing days. Let's welcome another season - Season Five by putting a smile on our face. =)
I apologize for spending much little time with you beginning from this season comparing the past seasons as I will be more focus on the thing I should be focusing on. =) .... Nevertheless, I will never neglect you and our little creature - TAN LUCAS !!! ....
We gonna meet up with lucas very soooooooooooon again ! ... -The Happy Little Family- that we have always been looking forward to every weekend !!! ... =)
Thank you for being so understanding, my husband.... Lurrrrrrrrrrrrrving you alwasy...
-wife deary-
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